How can fingers help people with a vulva reach orgasm?
Publicado: 2023-05-04 14:20:34
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Let's talk about an orgasm brought on by vaginal finger stimulation. This can result in intense and/or multiple orgasms and, for some, ejaculation. The best method to please a vulva-born individual is to experiment with finger manipulation. Up to 75% of vulva owners say they don't have an orgasm just from penetration. This means figuring out how to use your fingers to deliver a mind-blowing vaginal orgasm is a must.
Strumming the G-spot
The best part of fingering, however, is the direct contact made with the G-spot. Which by the way is not a "spot" or "button", it is an area on the upper part of the front wall of the vagina. This area is between the clitoral legs (inside the vagina) and is super sensitive. It's only 2-3 inches deep, which means the penetration needs to be very shallow.
If you're masturbating and feel the pleasures of stimulating your G-spot, but you can't reach orgasm, you might be a little too far gone and missing the point entirely. Manual stimulation directly in this area will increase your chances of reaching orgasm.
Different types of stimulation
The advantage of using your fingers is that you can bend them. There are three very popular finger movements that can trigger orgasm. They are:
The Two Finger Salute: While holding the index and middle fingers together and keeping them straight, use the padding on the fingertips for stroking. Move them back and forth and side to side over the area. Use light to medium pressure, depending on each person.
Come here: When your partner gets really turned on and is showing all the signs that he needs more stimulation, switch to the second flick of the finger; the “Come here”. Curl your fingers towards you as if you are telling someone to come to you. Do this with a little more pressure and increase the speed of your partner's breathing and body movements. Don't stop what you're doing until orgasm.
Spider Fingers: What are spider (or spiderman) fingers? This is the act of positioning your hand to look like Spider-Man when he's web-slinging. The middle two fingers penetrate the vagina, with the final two fingers coming out. The thumb can also be used to stimulate the clitoris in this position.
How to Finger the Vagina
Then, insert your lubricated fingers into the vagina slowly and carefully. Many people cannot have an orgasm without clitoral stimulation, so be sure to include it when you are fully aroused. Also be aware that some people find clitoral stimulation too intense. If this is the case, lick and suck on the clitoral hood to create a “shock absorber” of direct stimulation. You can use your thumb or mouth to tease and manipulate the clitoris. Once your fingers are in, explore. The upper part and the deep point are very sensitive.
What is the Deep Point?
Deep in the vagina is an area known as the A-spot (anterior fornix) that you can stroke with your fingers to trigger an orgasm. This can be an intense, full-body orgasm if one allows oneself to relax into the sensations. Just below the A spot you can find the cervix. It's firm to the touch, so be careful not to push it. However, some vulva owners like to have their cervix stimulated. Make sure you use a lot of lube.
The last area to mention is the deep point. That area that's so far and deep in the vagina that you can reach to trigger an orgasm. It is also known to cause ejaculation (squirting) as well.
Deep point manipulation should be with medium pressure that you can increase as you press deeper. You are also manipulating the anal wall from the inside, which increases the pleasure. It's not a position where you'll be able to do the "come here" movement. Moving up and down quickly is more appropriate.
Many types of orgasms
The good thing about fingerpicking is that you have a lot of control over the type of orgasm you can deliver. If you want a more intimate sex experience, do it slowly and steadily. The intensity of the finger movement must be determined by the receiver. Never behave aggressively unless asked to do so. Be intentional with where you place your fingers and how much pressure you use when touching the vagina. Be sure to keep your knuckles as flat as possible so as not to injure the soft tissue of the vulva.
