Dominant and Submissive: Know Each One's Duty

When you think about BDSM and Bondage there is a visual stigma that only men can be the dominators and submissive women. This was due to cultural issues of a time when the male figure had to demonstrate power and the woman submission. Today, that has changed! And thankfully!

Currently, many men like to be in a situation of humiliation and submission at the feet of a Dominatrix (domineering woman) who dictates the orders of the game and, if necessary, leaves some marks on the body for the submissive to really discipline and obey whoever is in the command. And woe betide anyone who doesn't fall into line with them!

In BDSM there are also “switchers”, a BDSM term for those who like to stay in both positions, both dominant and submissive – that is, a role reversal.

Like the theater, the dominator and the submissive are roles played by the couple, one of them being the character that one has more control of the situation, while the second, more passive and willing to be obedient. Remember that the duties of each one below are just a few examples of what can be done during the relationship, as before starting BDSM it is necessary to talk and establish boundaries.

The Duties of the Dominator and the Dominatrix

You need to take care of the sub at all times during BDSM and Bondage practices and make sure he is not physically or mentally injured.

The dominator needs to be clear and say everything he intends to do with the person so that he doesn't take him by surprise and traumatize him.

Have common sense and know when to stop hitting and humiliating if you go too far.

Never, ever, under any circumstances do something under the influence of drugs, alcohol and/or moments of anger. This can be fatal!

Train so that the submissive is always happy to serve.

Having a new attitude towards the stigmas of a “vanilla relationship”, such as jealousy, envy and monopolization of the partner.

Provide help with other issues in life, such as encouraging studies, having a job, etc.

The Duties of the Submissive and the Slave

You must make an effort to get to know the dominator well, his tastes and preferences. Know what pleases you in each moment.

Always seek evolution, face the limits and strive to learn more and more.

As much as the dominator seems to have the highest position, the submissive must be heard by his dominator. It is always the submissive to dictate how far the activity limit goes.

Fulfill the orders given without flinching and feel honored to carry them out.
It should anticipate and provide for all the dominator's needs without having to remember this duty.

Never be untrue or utter dubious words that could be interpreted or have double meanings.