For the Couple

Talking about using a sex toy during a relationship isn't always easy, especially if it's something you or your partner have never discussed before.

But if you're worried or nervous about revealing your desire don't worry, we've prepared the best suggestions of everything you should and shouldn't do to add sex toys to your relationship!

Test your Mate

If you've seen something on TV or a movie for adults that made you want to try sex toys with your partner, take the opportunity to talk about what you saw with your partner in a light, carefree way (eg, "Was that scene or ad interesting? Have you ever done anything like that?").

If she/e seems willing to continue the conversation, why not suggest trying something similar and seeing the reaction?

Makes them not replace anything!

One of the reasons some people are reluctant to talk about toys in fourth is that they believe it is a sign that something is not going well or the partner is not satisfied.

To put their minds at ease, try to make it clear that It's not about replacing anything or something doing the job better - it's about trying something new, making your sex life even more exciting, discovering these new new things together to!

It's like trying a new restaurant, or exploring a new place to go on vacation. Of course, you can absolutely love the place you visit, but it's always fun to play something new and discover new experiences.

Combine something first!

If you're still not sure about this, make a deal first. Offer something of your choice, for example wearing sexy lingerie, doing something on the spot that the other person likes or even something more mundane related to your everyday life.

Or even and, why not, offer Give him a toy so you two can try something new?

That way, everyone wins!

Don't play with something huge or complicated!

Maybe your fantasy is to see your partner using a huge toy. But if you've really never explored this type of game before, it's important to start with something smaller.

We know it can be tempting to start with the most expensive or high-tech toy you can find, because you think will give you the best experience. But, it is very important that you first get used to using them and find out if it works first.

Don't just present a toy in the middle of the session and without first notifying your partner!

Surprising someone with something he/she doesn't agree to use can scare most people away, even if you have the best intentions.

Make sure he/she is aware of the toy beforehand and is happy to use it. It is then to decide when you choose to take it to your moment.

Remember to have fun!

Working on the courage to have that conversation about sex toys is sometimes scary and stressful and it can seem like the future of your sex life will depend on them.

But, it's important remember why you want to try sex toys. It's because sex is fun and you want it to become even more!

Don't take it too seriously because fun sex with your partner is the most important thing.

Respect your decision!

Ultimately, if your partner decides that sex toys are not for you, you should respect that it might not be the best time.

That doesn't mean they can't reconsider in the future. It gives you all the information you have on why you think it would be fun, planting the seed for future conversations...